Comments on: The Teaching that Pregrooms Victims

By: Martha

Martha — Sun, 05 May 2019 04:34:11 +0000

I have said something similar for a long time. I have chosen to teach my children to be able to speak for themselves, and while I want them to be kind, we don’t respect adults because they are simply adults. We can say “No”.

By: By Thy Words

By Thy Words — Fri, 03 May 2019 21:01:21 +0000

In reply to Joel Horst.

Good parents WANT their children to understand the reasons why whenever possible.

It’s part of growing up. It’s part of training for life.

But mindless compliance is a way of life for these people. Without it, their entire structure collapses.

By: Joel Horst

Joel Horst — Fri, 03 May 2019 19:30:06 +0000

Yes. You have hit the nail on the head here. Some time ago, I too would have thought these to be noble words. But no more. Obedience without question, from someone old enough to read this book, is grooming for abuse. Of course there are times when children need to obey without question. Usually, those are emergencies: “Get out of the street right now!” cries the parent as the car careens toward the child.

But under ordinary circumstances, mindless obedience is absolutely toxic. Even if it does not perpetuate sexual abuse, it destroys a child’s boundaries and keeps them functioning as a child instead of growing up into independent adults.

Trust me. It happened to me.

And that’s why this is so toxic: not just because it enables abuse, but because it cripples the minds of those who take it to heart.

By: By Thy Words

By Thy Words — Fri, 03 May 2019 18:02:00 +0000

In reply to Victoria Miller.

Thank you, Victoria!

There is so much denial that there even IS a problem, isn’t there? That’s why I have decided to focus on the undeniable: their own writings.

No one can deny that this is what is being taught. No one can deny these words, these ideas.

And when you realize what is truly being taught, you realize that the abuse that they are vigorously denying is indubitably there.

By: Victoria Miller

Victoria Miller — Fri, 03 May 2019 17:32:24 +0000

This is EXACTLY what needs to be exposed, and the story of not only my life, but thousands of sexual abuse survivors that grew up in the Mennonite cult. Thank you for writing.